You'll want to write a profile that represents you and what you're looking for.To help, we've compiled a few online dating profile examples and enlisted the help of relationship experts Laura Schreffler and Craig Donaldson to get you on your way to writing the perfect online dating profile for you.Keep your product’s major flaws out of the commercial.The obvious points of picking photos are to make them (1) flattering, and (2) accurate.That photo where your skin looks all glowy and you can’t see your cankles? But the photo from 6 years, 25 pounds and two high-stress jobs ago?Yes, you looked great, but you want to date someone who is attracted to you right now.I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.So, welcome to Internet Dating Bootcamp, where I'll teach you how to trick unsuspecting users into thinking you’re actually cool and normal. You need to be you in your online dating profile, but the process of creating one is a good time to think about what kindergarten teachers call “being your best self at school.” If you’re attracted to Type-A go-getter types who get up at 6am to exercise, emphasize your similar love of hard work. Want someone who shares your taste for obscure French films? No, not everyone wants to date a carbon copy of themselves, but most of us want to be with someone with some overlapping interests.
A couple of studies published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and reported on by The Huffington Post shows confident, and even overconfident, online daters are considered more desirable. The studies also found that if you take it too far, then you’ll come off as arrogant instead.
Creating a great online dating profile is more than just saying who you are and what your romantic desires are — there’s also some science to it.
Research done by Plenty of Fish says women who found a relationship through online dating used the word “relationship” and similar words 16% more often in their profiles than women who didn’t.
So select photos that look good, but could also in some universe be reasonably understood to be you.
Relatedly: Select photos where you can actually see what you look like.