Donna Andersn is a journalist who founded the website Love after she came out of an abusive marriage with a sociopath.
The website is now a popular go-to place for people who have been through abuse, to help teach them to recognize and avoid sociopaths.
Andersen wrote a blog post last month about some of the phrases and words you should know if you think you're going through an abusive relationship with a narcissist or sociopath, and this is a few of the ones you should be aware of.
Sociopath and narcissist are used interchangeably in this article.
He will reveal a few of his indiscretions and weaknesses so you feel safe being open and honest with him.
He wants to get to know you alright, just not for the reason you think.
Do you feel unimportant, like an accessory, and alone in your relationship?
If he is what he says he is, it will show over time and he won’t mind waiting.
While most of us are guilty of some of the following behaviors at one time or another, a pathological narcissist tends to dwell habitually in several of the following personas, while remaining largely unaware of (or unconcerned with) how his or her actions affect others. You struggle to have your views and feelings heard. While many people have the poor communication habit of interrupting others, the narcissist interrupts and quickly switches the focus back to herself. The underlying message of this type of display is: “I’m better than you! Narcissists can be very charismatic and persuasive.
When you do get a word in, if it’s not in agreement with the narcissist, your comments are likely to be corrected, dismissed, or ignored. ” or “Look at how special I am—I’m worthy of everyone’s love, admiration, and acceptance! Narcissists often expect preferential treatment from others. When they’re interested in you (for their own gratification), they make you feel very special and wanted.
― Anonymous Psychologist Stephen Johnson writes that the narcissist is someone who has “buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self.” This alternate persona to the real self often comes across as grandiose, “above others,” self-absorbed, and highly conceited.
In our highly individualistic and externally driven society, mild to severe forms of narcissism are not only pervasive but often encouraged.