One awesome side effect of this is that we now have access to a realm of data that has never been available before — how people talk, interact, and communicate prior to entering a relationship.And one thing that should be worrisome for straight men is the size of their disadvantage in the market.You don’t have to overhaul your strategy based off of these guys' thoughts, but if you’re in a rut, take some tips right from the stallion’s mouth.“When you have too many pictures with family members, it makes us think you’re going to drag us to family functions early on.Balance the family photos with you doing something fun—like hanging out at a stadium—so I have a better idea of what our time together will be like.” –James, 42“If the woman’s photos are only with friends, I automatically think she is shy and insecure about her looks.I would like to see a confident picture of her by herself doing something she loves.That gives me something to talk about.” –Javier, 30“Women that have pictures of themselves doing stupid and dorky things are always a plus to me—it shows a “I like a more natural photo, just the beautiful girl and her vibrant smile.That's fascinating, and also could be an explanation — men sending a lot more messages than women — for the disparity.But also let's look at what other conclusions we can draw.
NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?
Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
What the hell are you supposed to say about yourself in your profile? [pagebreak] OUT-OF-TOWN AND OUT OF TOUCH The scenario: “A guy sent me a message saying that he wanted to meet up for a drink, but when I asked when he was free, he said he was ‘going out of town’ for the next two weeks and that we should schedule something after.” — Andrea, 31 The problem..the solution: If you tell a girl you’re “going out of town,” she’s going to assume you’re busy dating other women.
To stage the experiment, Sy Thomas, 36, from London, underwent a makeover - complete with feminine clothes, a wig and full make-up - to pose as a woman and to his shock he received more than 400 messages in three days.
Here, guys dish on photos, profiles, and all the things you’re doing right and wrong to get their attention.