There is a challenging complexity to being in a committed relationship while attending Graduate School or a Professional School (such as Law School or Medical School).
At the most basic level, the challenge emerges from the reality that your relationship is, simultaneously a Source of Support and a Source of Demanding Responsibilities.
Plus, I’m trying to figure out whether a writing MFA would be a good time investment for me, and talking to my boyfriend and his fellow students is giving me a lot of insight into how the program works. Obviously, grad students are using a lot of energy on their program instead of on their relationships. On the bright side, the busy-ness issues mean that my time-management skills are really getting polished.
Every Saturday, I write out all of our obligations for the week, and try to tweak our schedules so we have time together.
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After I finished my Ph D I realized that in order to get my degree I had to overcome many of the same barriers as other graduate students.
Going further, this brought up a key question: Why wasn’t there a book that summarized all the tricks and tips of navigating graduate school?
I covered areas such as financial support, elements of a thesis, time management, communication with your PI and coworkers, writing skills, and career planning.“Be prepared for a breakup about three weeks from now.” That was the relationship advice I got from a girl in her second year of my boyfriend’s graduate program, just before he started the first semester of his MFA in creative writing.She had reason to be cynical: grad school means a convoluted class schedule, loads of coursework, very little money, and a whole new social circle of other grad students–and none of those things are awesome for an existing relationship.Engage in Open and Honest Communication and Planning To minimize problems and to enhance your relationship, communicate before and during challenging times.Communication, however, is not simply a matter of exchanging information (although that is an important part of a respectful relationship).