(He says hotties are more likely to settle in miserable weather.)It was terrible banter, but it made me realize this: I’m a 5’9” slaphead with facial scars and crow’s feet, but it won’t ever cross my mind that a woman might be “out of my league.”With a bit of work, you shouldn’t ever feel this way either.
Here’s why: Let’s say you spot the girl of your dreams shopping for groceries. Or even at the bar early in the evening while you’re not wasted.
But logic tells us this paradigm is completely outdated, because looks actually , it's been proven that "good-looks disparities" are common between couples, and often make for a lasting relationship (because, you know, personality).
According to NYMag.com, a recent study in the journal For the experiment, researchers filmed a variety of couples—everyone from the "married for years" down to the "dating for weeks"—then had people watch the tapes and judge the attractiveness of each person.
While that may be bad news for non-photogenic types on Tinder, it's encouraging news for the "average" singles out there looking to date "out of their league" — stick around, spend time together and don't give up hope.
So while I may be a little behind the pop-culture curve, there are certain issues that I find fascinating from an outsider’s perspective.
(credit: Jaguar PS / Shutterstock.com)" src=" width="333" height="500" srcset=" sizes="(max-width: 333px) 100vw, 333px" / Now, late to the party as I may be, I have to say that this does bring up the ever-popular topic of whether it’s possible to date someone who is “out of your league”.
It’s a self-reinforcing story; we don’t accept the idea that someone who looks like Lena Dunham could score with a guy who looks like Patrick Wilson because we never see it in the media.According to NYMag.com, researchers found that "while those who had begun going out recently were rated as equally physically attractive, there was often a clear 'hot one' in couples who had known each other for extended periods of time (as friends or acquaintances) before they became involved romantically."This is two pieces of good news disguised as one, because a) you've potentially already met your future husband but haven't realized you're in love with him yet, and b) if you meet someone painfully more attractive than you, you can wear him down with years of friendship and subtly make him love you. A study published this week in Psychological Science has great and/or terrible news for single people everywhere, depending on how shallow you are: Attraction can grow over time.One of the more infamous moments was an episode where Lena Dunham’s character Hannah hooks up with an attractive, older doctor played by Patrick Wilson for a weekend-long sex-spree. The Internet lost its collective shit over the idea that someone who looked like Lena Dunham could stand a chance of getting within such a thing is tantamount to sacrilege.Of course, everyone on the Internet took this in without even blinking, accepting that people are complex and varied in their desires and understanding that attraction is a complicated beast. To judge by the collective outrage over the episode, you would’ve thought that Dunham had murdered Ned Stark while dressed as Hitler and simultaneously shooting kittens out of a cannon that was also on fire.