I had one matchmaking client tell me that he drove 100 miles for an evening online date, only to find that the woman has posted her roommate's photo on her profile. To keep it simple, I'm going to use Match.com's description system and give you my definitions based on what men have told me that expect out of certain listed body types: Slender: You're not carrying an extra 5-10 pounds, and you probably don't work out a lot. You probably wear a clothing size under a size 8, unless you're particularly tall. A Few Extra Pounds: You're anywhere from 15-25 pounds overweight for you.
Heavyset, Big and Beautiful, Full-Figured: You wear a clothing size 16 and up. You probably wear a size 12-14 women's clothing size.
Ok, the first thing I wondered about was if this was a sliding scale sort of thing. So I don’t have to essentially call myself a number, like “seven”, which I was expecting. “Average” means “normal” and celebrities are just normal people – I knew this because during my daily Jezebel perusal, I had just seen a photo of Jessica Alba getting money out of the ATM. ” I mean, yes I’m a little athletic, and a little fit. I exercise 5 or 4 or 3 or, y’know, 2 times a week, and I only drink 2 to 4 nights a week. In fact, when I asked her what she meant many, many times, she finally said, “You look like you work out”, and when I asked her if she meant that I had huge thighs, or that I could pass for a man, she said, “No, you are just the right amount of feminine,” and then the conversation ended in real life, and continued in my head. But the question is, what does full-figured mean exactly?
I can probably proudly say with 100% confidence that I am pretty much fine with not being skinny. When I cheer for sports or wave at someone from far away, my tricep fat starts to fly.
But at the end of the day, an accurate description will save everyone a lot of time and money while online dating.
Sometimes it's hard to decode these designations, as the OP demonstrates.
It also helps to mention that it's recent and accurate, just to be sure. I recognize that the slender and athletic categories get you a lot more traffic, and a lot more potential dates. About Average: Men read this answer as 10-15 pounds overweight.
Men, especially, will pass on a woman's profile if he just "can't tell". It's just because he's been burned and he's tired of paying for ridiculous dates. My own husband (who went out on a grand total of like four online dates) once went out with a woman who listed herself as "athletic". But if that's an inaccurate listing for your body type, it's also going to bring you disappointment and tears after years of unsuccessful dating. Especially in areas of the country that are more fit or more metropolitan. Because of this, you're body is shaped well, but you don't have to be ripped to look great. Typically, men will use the Heavyset and Stocky categories, not women.
When I wear my Levi’s as opposed my Gap jeans, a bit of a muffin-top can occur.
Sometimes my skin jiggles when I move quickly, which is why my friends know that it’s a personal rule of mine that people not take slo-mo video of me.